Handing the Shame Back
This channel is dedicated to all those brave fellow 'adult survivors of child sexual abuse'. You are not alone out there, you are believed and supported in finding your voice & handing the shame back to the abusers - where it belongs.
Handing the Shame Back is a New Zealand based charity, focused on preventing child sexual abuse through education and supporting adult survivors. Find out more about us and what we do: https://www.handingtheshameback.org
Each week, Handing the Shame Back will add a Survivor Interview, Tip for Survivors, or Blog to help support our community in finding their way to truth and freedom. Please feel free to reach out if you would also like to be a guest on the show.
Together, we can provide support and protect...
The children of yesterday, whose pain was silenced.
The children of today, who need our protection.
The children of tomorrow, who deserve a safer world.
From silence to action. From shame to strength.
Episodes
424 episodes
Survivor Interview: Glenn Miles
Meet Glenn MilesSurvivor. Researcher. NurseAlthough he suffered humiliation and sexualised school bullying at the hands of his peers, Glenn was seriously sexually abused at a Christian camp at age 13 by a 30-year-old mal...
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Survivor Interview: Karen Shell
Meet Karen ShellSurvivor. Nonprofit Founder. Champion for Kids. EntrepreneurKaren was raised in a family where her father was not just sexually abusive, but mentally, physically and psychologically as well. Out of the 4 children, it ...
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Media Spotlight - Interview with NZ Herald (Gloria Masters & Scott Beard)
NZ Herald interviews Gloria and her partner Detective Inspector Scott Beard on the Global Hand Sign for Under 16’s to use, showing they are not safe and being sexually abused. Have a watch and listen of this, as this couple sets ou...
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Survivor Interview: Jeremy R.
Meet Jeremy R.Survivor. Content Creator. WriterHe was born with Spina Bifida and his parents were told he would never walk let alone live. He is now in his 40’s.He was 5 years old when his female abuser first star...
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Media Spotlight: Radio Interview with MoreFM Rodney
Being interviewed by Nick on MoreFM Rodney was empowering. Being able to discuss the book; Keeping Kids Safe which is now in every school in NZ, honouring. It is time for the world to join the campaign to educate and resource our c...
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Blog: Rest and Recovery
Rest and Recovery are essential for survivors. Though not often discussed it is crucial for survivors to rest deeply when dealing with this. Thinking about or working through your trauma, reignites it and this leads to the exact same trauma res...
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Q&A Session: 16 May 2025
Q&A SessionJoin us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers a range of questions posed by you, the Survivors. One for this month includes: how do you explain the hand sign to younger children. The questions are pertinent, and Glo...
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Survivor Interview: Cadence P.
Meet Cadence P.Survivor. Poet. AdvocateShe was abused by her godmother and her godmother’s father. She was heavily manipulated and groomed to the point where, they made her lie and say it was her brother who was abusing her. This eve...
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Tips for Survivors: Rest and Recovery
Having survived this trauma, understand that your body went into the 4 trauma responses, fight, flight, freeze of fawn. Reason: You had a lot of adrenaline cursing through you as you were in survival mode. This affected your central nervous sys...
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HTSB Global Awareness Day – 16 June
Handing the Shame Back is proud to return for the third year in a row with our GLOBAL AWARENESS DAY (16 June).This day is dedicated to raising awareness of child sexual abuse, honouring adult survivors — including those who didn’t make ...
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Survivor Interview: Reg Johnston
Reg JohnstonSurvivor. Trauma Informed AOD Clinician. Survivor AdvocateReg was abused by his sister 13 years older than him, who groomed him at the age of 12 mainly through the use of pornography. His home life consisted of confused b...
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Blog: Being Triggered
The known facts about being triggered are these: We don't know when they're going to occur, or how they will occur. What this means is that we cannot prepare for that which we cannot know. These triggers can appear through anything that involve...
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Q&A Session: 16 April 2025
Q&A SessionJoin us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, the Survivors. Ranging from how to manage a family who still believe the predator, to is it even possible to go on to have a loving ...
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Survivor Interview: Diane Payne
Meet Diane PayneSurvivorDiane was sexually abused by her brother-in-law from age 12 to 16. He was 24 when it started. She told no one for 40 years. Fast forward 4 years, & last year he finally got convicted in NZ. He...
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Tips for Survivors: Guilt and Shame
Feelings of shame and guilt are common to Survivors. This is especially true if we had siblings we felt we couldn't protect, or that we had to lie to protect the abuser which hurt our siblings even more. There is a process over tim...
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Survivor Interview: Sue Philip
Meet Sue PhilipSurvivorSue was abused from preschool age by her father. She blocked the memories out for many years until she was in her 40’s.. Her parents were part of the mormon church, and it was not until she left th...
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Blog: Mind Games
Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: that we play mind games with ourselves, more than with any other person, an...
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Parliamentary Select Committee Hearings - Gloria Masters
On behalf of Handing the Shame Back, I had the privilege of presenting to the Parliamentary Select Committee on Child Sex Trafficking within NZ, (we are wanting increased penalties added to the slavery offences amendment bill). Alt...
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Survivor Interview: Hanz Freller
Meet Hanz FrellerSurvivor Advocate. Dad. AuthorHe was abused in care by a St John of God Brother. The abuse was to span several years and was calculated and manipulative in the grooming of him throughout those vulnerable...
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Q&A Session - 7 March 2025
First Q&A SessionJoin us on this, our very first Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, ‘yes you’, the Survivors. Ranging from what to look for in kids who are being trafficked to coping with seeing...
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Book Distribution Update: Unboxing Day
Today marks the start of something powerful — 2,700 books are being unboxed, packaged, and prepared for delivery to schools across New Zealand.Every book sent is a step toward a safer future. If you’d like to help us get the...
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Tips for Survivors: Feeling Safe Sexually
Sometimes as survivors we can feel guilty, frozen or just plain wrong about having sex. As adults this has impact beyond what we can imagine. Have a look at this video as it just may help free you up from anything holding you back ...
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Book Distribution Update: Book Delivery Day
Today is the day!We are beyond excited to have received the books, "Keeping Kids Safe", which will be distributed to schools across New Zealand.We are still accepting donations to cover book distribution costs. If you...
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