Handing the Shame Back
This channel is dedicated to all those brave fellow 'adult survivors of child sexual abuse'. You are not alone out there, you are believed and supported in finding your voice & handing the shame back to the abusers - where it belongs.
Handing the Shame Back is a New Zealand based charity, focused on preventing child sexual abuse through education and supporting adult survivors. Find out more about us and what we do: https://www.handingtheshameback.org
Each week, Handing the Shame Back will add a Survivor Interview, Tip for Survivors, or Blog to help support our community in finding their way to truth and freedom. Please feel free to reach out if you would also like to be a guest on the show.
Together, we can provide support and protect...
The children of yesterday, whose pain was silenced.
The children of today, who need our protection.
The children of tomorrow, who deserve a safer world.
From silence to action. From shame to strength.
Episodes
444 episodes
Survivor Interview: Keith Williams
Keith WilliamsSurvivorKeith was 7 years old when the abuse began by an older brother, this went on till he was 12 years of age, at which point Keith believes he aged out. The coercive control and manipulation was powerful and ensured...
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Q&A Session: October 2025
Please reach out to contactus@handingtheshameback.org, we want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate an...
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Tips for Survivors: Overthinking
Do you ever find yourself overthinking and wondering why you do it?This can stem from anxiety, fear, and even feelings of not being seen, heard or understood. This was because during the time the abuse occurred, you had no way of overcom...
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Survivor Interview: Lisa Mannina
Lisa ManninaSurvivor. Pilot. Metastatic Breast Cancer WarriorLisa was abused by her mother's 3rd husband's son who was in his mid to late 20’s. She was 10 years old, this abuse carried on for 4 years and occurred at her ...
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Blog: Possibilities
For most of us possibilities are not something we ever seriously consider. We tend to live with thoughts of things not working out for us as opposed to the opposite: things working out well. Did you know that if you think you can or think you c...
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Q&A Session: September 2025
We want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: how to support Survivors as a ...
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Survivor Interview: Kieron
Meet KieronSurvivor. Educator. CEO and Founder of Speak It OutKieron was 6 years old when the abuse began and was to continue until he was 17 years of age. This was perpetrated by someone close to him who he trusted and ...
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Tips for Survivors: The Mind Dissociates
The Mind DissociatesThere is confusion around why this happens, but put simply the mind leaves when the body can’t. For survivors of child sexual abuse that is a blessing. But what if years later, as an adult, you are still ...
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Survivor Interview: Isabella Grosso
Meet Isabella GrossoSurvivor. Dancer. AuthorShe was abused from the age of 5 years by family friends and neighbours. She told her Dad, but nothing stopped after that. She could see the fear and sadness in his eyes so never spoke out ...
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Blog: Letting Go
Do you ever find yourself struggling to let go of a situation?Do you ever find yourself uncomfortable with not having control or insight into what happens next? If the answer is yes, you stand in good company. Many survivors experience j...
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Q&A Session: August 2025
We want to help you! If you have questions, we may have some answers, each month we provide a Q&A forum for you to help educate and inform. This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: how to approach schools who are posting chi...
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Survivor Interview: Lee Cooper
Meet Lee CooperSurvivor. Advocate. PhotographerHe was abused between 11-13 by a family member. He told no-one until he turned 31 years of age, and that was to his girlfriend. He believes that perpetrators know that discl...
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Tips for Survivors: Using Instinct to Let Go
Having a quiet time where you can connect in with your inner wisdom, will give you the answers you need. Your higher self is always at play, but you can only truly let go when you trust your instinct. The easiest and most effective way is throu...
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NZ Police Share the Global Hand Sign Message in Te Reo Māori
We are fortunate to have a member of NZ Police share the Global Hand Sign message in Te Reo. Please share far and wide so all who need to can see the hand sign and hear it. The more people that see this, the more children we can sa...
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Survivor Interview: Debbra Blosnich
Meet Debbra BlosnichSurvivor. Author. Transformational Life CoachBetween the ages of 6 - 18 she was abused by her father, with him telling her you can’t get pregnant, I’ve been fixed. She was 12 at the time. At the age o...
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Blog: Reflection
Most of us would rather not revisit the past. It was traumatic, frightening, and understandably triggering. But what if I told you that how you approach your past could make all the difference? What if, by gently reflecting, you co...
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Survivor Interview: Marvin Hitchman
Meet Marvin HitchmanSurvivor. Author. A fighter who wants to make more people aware of child sexual abuse.He was also born in prison. When he was adopted out, he never bonded with his adoptive father, and found himself feeling isolat...
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Q&A Session: July 2025
This month’s Q&A has a range of questions including: Why use the hand sign when it's for everyone else to use? Do survivors of child sexual abuse more likely to go on and abuse children? For these answers and more, have a watch of this shor...
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Tips for Survivors: Guilt
The role guilt plays in sexual abuse as a child is varied. Please note, that without exception; if you are a survivor of this trauma, you were undoubtedly groomed, manipulated and often bullied into being complicit. However it mani...
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Survivor Interview: Ciara Redmond
Meet Ciara RedmondSurvivor of serial predator and serial rapist. Raises awareness.Ciara was raised in a family where once her younger brother had cancer the focus needed to be on him. This resulted in her being left alon...
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Survivor Interview: Glenn Miles
Meet Glenn MilesSurvivor. Researcher. NurseAlthough he suffered humiliation and sexualised school bullying at the hands of his peers, Glenn was seriously sexually abused at a Christian camp at age 13 by a 30-year-old mal...
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Survivor Interview: Karen Shell
Meet Karen ShellSurvivor. Nonprofit Founder. Champion for Kids. EntrepreneurKaren was raised in a family where her father was not just sexually abusive, but mentally, physically and psychologically as well. Out of the 4 children, it ...
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Media Spotlight - Interview with NZ Herald (Gloria Masters & Scott Beard)
NZ Herald interviews Gloria and her partner Detective Inspector Scott Beard on the Global Hand Sign for Under 16’s to use, showing they are not safe and being sexually abused. Have a watch and listen of this, as this couple sets ou...
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