Handing the Shame Back
This channel is dedicated to all those brave fellow 'adult survivors of child sexual abuse'. You are not alone out there, you are believed and supported in finding your voice & handing the shame back to the abusers - where it belongs.
Each week I will add another interview with a 'fellow survivor' to help support our community in finding their way to truth and freedom, which only real truth can bring. Please feel free to reach out if you would also like to be a guest on the show.
About Me: I too am a survivor of child sexual abuse spanning sixteen years. I have written a book called On Angels' Wings - My Flight from Trauma to Grace.
I also blog monthly on https://www.handingtheshameback.org/
Check out our youtube channel: Handing the Shame Back..
Episodes
405 episodes
Q&A Session - 7 March 2025
First Q&A SessionJoin us on this, our very first Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, ‘yes you’, the Survivors. Ranging from what to look for in kids who are being trafficked to coping with seeing...
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Book Distribution Update: Unboxing Day
Today marks the start of something powerful — 2,700 books are being unboxed, packaged, and prepared for delivery to schools across New Zealand.Every book sent is a step toward a safer future. If you’d like to help us get the...
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Tips for Survivors: Feeling Safe Sexually
Sometimes as survivors we can feel guilty, frozen or just plain wrong about having sex. As adults this has impact beyond what we can imagine. Have a look at this video as it just may help free you up from anything holding you back ...
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Book Distribution Update: Book Delivery Day
Today is the day!We are beyond excited to have received the books, "Keeping Kids Safe", which will be distributed to schools across New Zealand.We are still accepting donations to cover book distribution costs. If you...
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Survivor Interview: Susan Gold
Meet Susan GoldSurvivor, Author and Transformationalist.She was the middle child born in a family where generational abuse was undealt with and therefore continued. She was abused by her brother between 7 to 10 years of age with some...
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Book Distribution Donation Update - 21 February 2025
We have now raised $2,500. If you are able to help, please use this direct link:
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Blog: Sex and Adult Survivors
It is entirely natural for you as a survivor of child sexual abuse to struggle with sex as an adult. some survivors have a constant battle with this, preferring to be celibate in the end. For others guilt, fear and dissociation can occur. Where...
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Tips for Survivors: Managing Guilt
As children, we were always dependent on the adults around us to meet our needs. This is common and expected, as we were unable to feed or clothe ourselves. However, guilt does feature because we had to accommodate the adults around us, even wh...
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Survivor Interview: Steven Shelton
Meet Steven SheltonSurvivor and AuthorWas abused by many males beginning when he was just 4 years old. His mother walked in on the abuse, saw it, and walked back out again. This was the beginning of Steven’s nightmare, culminating in...
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Introducing the Q&A Session
We are thrilled to provide answers to any questions you may have — let's interact! We want to provide information you need, in order to do that, please email us at contactus@handingtheshameback...
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Survivor Interview: Elizabeth Melendez
Meet Elizabeth MelendezAuthor. Advocate. CEO/Founder of the Foundation United Org.She was sexually abused by a family friend at age 11, though saw that physical, emotional and sexual abuse was happening throughout her family from a v...
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Blog: New Year Resolutions
Don't make any new year resolutions, instead reflect on what you have achieved over the last 12 months and honour that. You may consider growing that skillset further or adding to it, but at this time of year, recovering from Xmas and the holid...
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Book Distribution Donation Update
We are bringing you this update due to the generous and much appreciated response to our video asking for help to get the book ‘Keeping Kids Safe - A Roadmap for Parents, Teachers & Others’ into schools. We have the funding to provide the b...
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Want to Save Some Kids?
We are seeking sponsors so we can distribute the book 'Keeping Kids Safe' to every school in NZ. We have the books funded, just not the distribution costs.If you are able to help, simply visit http://gl...
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Survivor Interview: Avery Kearney
Meet Avery KearneySurvivor. Advocate. Non-profit worker in the health sector.Avery is a survivor of sexual abuse at the hands of his uncle from the age of 8.The grooming process went on for years prior, and much of his abuse w...
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Xmas Panel Discussion 2024
Welcome back to Louise Nicholas and Ken Clearwater who join me on the this panel, to discuss all things Survivors experience throughout the Xmas season. We need to honour survivors through this time of year, and I couldn't think of anyone bette...
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HTSB Xmas Board Message
Here is our Xmas Message from the Board at Handing the Shame Back Foundation, to all the amazing survivors, supporters and sponsors we have. Thank you so much, and from all of us, Merry Xmas to you.
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Blog: It's Christmas
It’s Christmas.Getting through Christmas, can be an overwhelming ask for us as survivors. While many people experience joy and celebration during this time, we can feel the opposite through difficult emotions, painful memories, and feeli...
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Survivor Tip: Managing
This time of year can be difficult when trying to manage end of year events, Xmas interactions and school concerts. Try to find time to ground yourself by remembering to reflect on you, what you have managed to achieve and the incredible surviv...
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Survivor Interview: Deb Aldrick
Deb AldrickAuthor. Speaker. AdvocateDeb was abused from 5 - 14 by a family member while another family member did nothing to protect her. Pre-abuse she was happy and confident, and enjoyed life with lots of friends. Post-abuse she be...
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Survivor Interview: Raymond Lum
Meet Raymond LumSurvivor and Film ProducerAs a young boy, he was sexually abused by their female live in nanny for years. When he eventually told his father the response was ‘Look out for your brother’.To reach Raymond go to: ...
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Season 6
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Episode 41
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Blog: Coercive Control
As survivors of child sexual abuse, it is widely accepted that we were controlled through grooming simply so the abuser could exploit us. What is less discussed is the coercive control that lay underneath all of it. What that meant...
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Season 6
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Episode 40
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Blog: Resolution
Be aware if you are deciding on how to confront your abuser, your emotions will be running at an all time high, and therefore deciding on something of this importance may not serve you - Yet!It will in time, but maybe just not today. Becaus...
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